Italy and the Single American

Italy.   The very idea of it can spark thoughts of romance and passion in the mind of any red-blooded American.   What most of us have learned of Italy, we have learned through movies, books, travel documentaries and brochures.   It is presented, and rightly so, as a place to open up to the passions and desires that lie within ourselves.   Beautiful villas next to sparkling seas, quaint little outdoor cafes where soft, sweet music flows through the streets like a part of the very air you breathe.Starry nights filled with strolling lovers and passionate history.   One would have to be made of stone not to be affected by the atmosphere of this most glorious place.

These things alone can attract hordes of single Americans to Italy each year in search of romance and adventure.   If Traveling to Italy with a certain special someone, then most of those dreams and fantasies will be realized.   There is not much to compare with the Italian atmosphere for lighting the flames of passion. The best advice would be to take advantage of all Italy has to offer and throw caution and inhibition to the wind.   You will seldom be disappointed.


Handsome young man in Alpino hat

A single American Traveling alone to Italy, however, may want to exercise a certain amount of caution and scale down expectations to avoid disappointment.   You must remember that you are entering into a different culture, and that what you may think is proper or normal may not seem so to the native Italians.

Italian men have been known to comment that American women can sometimes be quite naive when it comes to the subject of romance.   They are often surprised at how gullible the woman is and how easily she accepts all that he says as fact.   Love can be more of a game to Italian men, or more descriptively, an art.   When an Italian man finds a woman attractive he is apt to tell her so, and possibly in ways that, although an Italian woman would take his words in stride and with a grain of salt, the American woman may take literally.   Starting off slowly and moving with caution is not his way, and words may come from his mouth that seem like words of love to an American woman, where to him they are simply words of praise and passion.   An Italian man, in general, does not expect to be taken literally for everything he says.   He is doing the dance that Italian men have learned so well and practiced for centuries.   In turn, he can be quite perplexed by the anger and hurt an American woman expresses when she feels that he is not living up to his professed promises.   This does not make Italian men liars; it just means they come from a different culture!

If an American single woman arms herself with this knowledge before she takes that leap into the Italian singles scene, she is less likely to find herself feeling empty and betrayed, and more likely to enjoy what Italian men and their culture have to offer.   The passion and excitement of an Italian "fling" can be great for the ego and possibly leave a woman with more of a sense of her own sensuality and worth.

For single men in Italy, they are sure to find a feast for the eyes and ears in their search for romance. They may find in Italian women a sense of passion and freedom that they may have found lacking in some of their stateside romances. They can probably feel a bit freer to express their selves in a way that American women might find a bit "over the top", but Italian women would not find unusual at all. Yet, for that very same reason, American men must remember where they are and whom they are dealing with. Italian woman are not likely to be so easily bowled over by hastily thrown words of love in the throes of passion. They generally expect this type of behavior from men.   Italian women are also prone to speak their minds right from the start, and the American male must learn to practice restraint when he thinks he may have been insulted.   Stop, think, and remember where you are.   Italian people can be quite frank in their conversation, and it should be remembered that what is an insult to Americans may just be an innocent observation to an Italian.   A man should appreciate this frankness; the woman is not into playing games!    Remember also, that no matter where a woman is from, she deserves to be treated with respect.   Part of respecting an Italian woman is to take the time to know a bit of her culture before you even meet her.   She will appreciate it, and you will find yourself possibly having a romantic experience that you will remember for years to come.

Everyone should think of visiting Italy at least once in his or her lifetime.   It is beauty and history and passion and romance all wrapped into one exciting package, and for the single American, it can create precious memories that will remain a part of you for as long as you live.

By Tracy Santany


Saturday, April 25TH, 2009 by Guest

Too bad about the graffiti here, loads of it. Other than that, good sites to see are:

The Colosseum
The Trivi Fountain (Very Romantic, lights up at night.)
The Spanish Steps
The Arch Of Constantine
The Vatican Church (I think that's the name)

And there are heaps more.
I suggest getting a tour guide on most of those places, otherwise it might seem you're looking at a bunch of rubble. Guided tours can cost from €10 - 25, not including entrance.

Have a good time in Rome!
Also watch out for con-men, they'll come straight up to you and give you something, then charge you afterward.
A guy tried charging me 10 Euro for a piece of string attached to my wrist!

Fyi, I'm 16, From New Zealand, and I'm actually in Rome right now.


Friday, October 30TH, 2009 by Guest

i am american, i've been living here in italy for almost 5 years. this article cracked me up. its the difference between calling somebody an f?cking a??hole, or saying they are not as sweet as desired. the lowdown on the women- most of them brush off the "ciao bella" and whistles on up to downright lewd comments because they pretty much ask for them in the first place. they all have huge egos, they dress like they want to WORK the street, not walk it. call it cultural difference, but class is class, and tits hanging out of your shirt, and pants that look like they were painted on, don't exactly imply modesty or confidence. women who have nothing else to offer but a view, offer it up every chance they get. a real woman display class and saves her best show for an opportune moment.
the guys here PREY on tourist women because they know they are easy, overwhelmed in an exciting new environment, and looking for something special. you won't find it ladies. lets let the truth out: all, and i mean 99 percent, of these guys are not circumcised. if your into that, have fun. second, i have dated lots of guys here, and the few that maybe had pulled off they're act good enough to get in my pants RUINED it at the kissing stage. these italian guys are so slobbery and they all want to just "get in there" and foreplay is not a big priority. then they wonder why your not all turned on. usually they like alcohol involved for this reason. there isn't anything new under the sun, the guys here are the same jerks you can find in the states or anywhere else for that matter. as with any lay, anywhere, where a condom, take a pill, whatever. the worst thing is the PDA. these guys just want to grab-ass and make out in peoples faces, and yes, its a cultural thing. its called men in general. they like to show off to all the others that they are getting some booty. how sweet.
by the way, the guys here dress alot different. its the european unisex trend, tight jeans on guys, guys wearing pajminas (i totally don't know how to spell that) and even pink pants or shirts, lots of jewelery, greasy hair, chest hair hanging out (thats mostly from the south, the northerners laugh about it alot), and they think nothing of things like nose picking, coughing in the open, slapping other guy friends on the ass (they are very friendly, kissy and all, its the norm here) and most of them carry man purses or fanny packs. sexy. if you like all that stuff, then you will have a great time. im so tired of tourist articles that shade and cover the real deal. im a decent looking 28 yr old woman, and i work here- in my sweat pants or just pjs. i wear no make up and never show anything. and i still get hit on all day long. old men will stare you up and down. all guys will, no matter what you look like. and here, staring is not rude. even women will stare and give you a dirty look if she is jealous, or the guys will talk to you, but to your tits really. there are few and far between exceptions. the only men that wont hassle you, are the ones that are busy hassling other men. have fun in italy.

Friday, May 06TH, 2011 by Guest

i'm currently living here in IT and i'm and american women. What amanda said is somewhat true but not all. I'm living in northern part of italy and been here for 2 years now. The men here are very attractive and like to be busy or have fun. I know some italian men that are always working and don't have time for a women. and then there are men that are always partying and at the clubs. i did see some pick the nose and didn't care if anyone was watching which was diffrent for me lol because i'm not use to seeing that but they do dress better and are always in style with the clothes and hair then us Americans lol. The women here dress classy but i have seen some dress like a prostitute. Sad thing is the ones that do dress like that are very young like 15 - 16 years of age. they go to clubs and try to get lay fast too. but the older women around 20 and up dress more classy and act like they are better then you and seem always busy with school. i barely see anyone wear shorts here and its summer time now. always long pants for men and women. and tank tops. and yes italians love looking at them self's. i have a few italian girls ask me to do there makeup because most are natural here and want to learn how to wear makeup and look glam up. The People here are nice and they do love americans. And have the best coffee ever!

Tuesday, August 02TH, 2011 by Guest

Im going to Italy next spring 2012. I'm so excited to see the country, the culture and the people. I will form my own opinion once I get there but I have no doubt that I will be impressed on every level. It will be the best experience of my life! :)

Sunday, August 28TH, 2011 by Guest

Hello everybody I'm an Italian 24yrs old girl living in Milan, I think some things written here are totally correct and some are stereotyped. Actually I think I should have read this article before going to the US. I just understood some reactions I got when I was there that I totally didnt understand back then!! woooooow
Keep In mind Milan is not all about fashion and design, real Milan is about working hard!!

Monday, September 05TH, 2011 by Guest

Hello, I was in Italy last week dating an Italian woman. My dream is to marry a nice Italian woman and bring her to live with in the US. I come from Italian family and an Italian woman is suitable to my taste and lifestyle. My real challenge is how can I connect to true Italian women if I live in the US? Please let me know websites which can help me. 

Saturday, September 24TH, 2011 by Guest

amanda are you sure you have been in Italy? I do not think so

Thursday, October 13TH, 2011 by Guest

Uaooo what a creepy bullshit... i cant believe there are so many website about Italy based on tales and stories
''He is doing the dance that Italian men have learned so well and practiced for centuries'' Whaaaaatttt?
nobody theached me this dance.. Ma quante cagate scrivete in questo sito? senza parole...

Friday, October 21TH, 2011 by Guest

Amanda is right! This article is romanticized bullshit! The men and the women are decadent, and superficial. There is no modesty whatsoever. They are also very arrogant and rude.

Monday, October 31TH, 2011 by Guest

I am an american (half black half asian ) and I love italian men and they love me too. shoot.. I love all types of men. I do however think that italian men are a lot like black american men in that they are aggressive and confident so I am use to the approach because that is what i typically date.I feel like a lot of Amereican women think they can just go to Italy and get any italian man and think they are ooohhhh so romantic and have this fairy tale depiction. If you can't get men in the states, what makes you think Italy is any different. sheesh. That's probably why the italian men may come off EXTRA aggressive towards american women, I think many of us go there and act floozy and naive. Get some mojo.  It's called the art of feeling good and making others feel good too. Who believes anything a man says right off back anyway?  

Amanda, slobbery kisses , alcohol and no foreplay? maybe you just weren't worth it. The tight pants, pashminas, and hairy chest is different, but why expect Italians to dress like the Americans you are use to seeing?  and just because the women are comfortable with thier sexuality enough to wear form fitting clothing doesn't make them streetwalkers. Why are you 28 wearing sweatpants and your pajamas when you leave the house anyway? leave that in the gym or in your bed. classless in my opinion but heyyy... that's me.   I show skin, dress sexy and have my stuff together, maybe you can learn how to be feminine from those italian girls because obviously you are bitter and modesty is lacking with you . not cute!